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What You Need to Know if You Live with a Narcissist, Part II by Maritza Garcia


Living with a narcissist can be challenging and emotionally draining. The term 'narcissism' is derived from the Greek myth of Narcissus, a beautiful young man who fell in love with his own reflection in a pool of water. According to the myth, Narcissus was so captivated by his own beauty that he couldn't tear himself away from his reflection, eventually leading to his own demise as he wasted away, pining for himself.

In psychology, narcissism refers to a personality disorder characterized by an excessive sense of self-importance, a need for constant admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. People with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) often exhibit traits such as grandiosity, entitlement, and a lack of empathy, similar to the behavior displayed by Narcissus in the myth.

The relevance of the myth of Narcissus to narcissism lies in the concept of self-absorption, self-centeredness, and an inflated sense of self-importance that are characteristic of narcissistic individuals. The myth serves as a metaphor for the self-destructive nature of extreme self-absorption and the negative impact it can have on relationships and personal well-being.

Here are some important things to keep in mind if you find yourself in this situation:

  1. Set boundaries--Establish clear boundaries with the narcissist to protect your own well-being. Be firm in stating your limits and stick to them, even if the narcissist tries to manipulate or guilt-trip you.

  2. Practice self-care--Take care of yourself by engaging in activities that bring you joy and relaxation. Make time for self-care, whether it's through exercise, prayer, or spending time with supportive friends and family.

  3. Seek support--It's important to have a strong support system in place when living with a narcissist. Reach out to friends, family, or a counselor for emotional support and guidance.

  4. Avoid engaging in power struggles--Narcissists thrive on conflict and drama, so it's important to avoid getting into power struggles with them. Stay calm and composed, and try to disengage from arguments or manipulation tactics.

  5. Focus on your own needs--It's easy to get caught up in trying to please the narcissist, but it's important to prioritize your own needs and well-being. Take care of yourself and focus on what makes you happy.

  6. Educate yourself--Learn more about narcissism and the traits of narcissistic personality disorder to better understand the behavior of the person you're living with. This can help you navigate the relationship more effectively.

  7. Consider seeking professional help--If the situation becomes too overwhelming or toxic, consider seeking help. A mental health professional can provide you with tools and strategies to cope with living with a narcissist and help you set boundaries.

Narcissistic personality disorder is a complex and deep-seated mental health condition that can be challenging to treat. While there is no known 'cure' for narcissism, individuals with narcissistic traits or narcissistic personality disorder may benefit from counseling and treatment to manage their symptoms and to improve their relationships and overall well-being. Counseling, specifically a psychotherapeutic approach to counseling, can be helpful in providing individuals with narcissistic traits the opportunity to explore and understand their behaviors, emotions, and underlying issues that contribute to their narcissism. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), and psychodynamic therapy are some of the therapeutic approaches that may be used to address narcissistic traits and behaviors.

It's important to note that individuals with narcissistic personality disorder may be resistant to seeking help or acknowledging that they have a problem, as their sense of superiority and lack of insight can make it difficult for them to recognize the need for change. However, with the right support and counseling, some individuals with narcissistic traits may be able to develop greater self-awareness, empathy, and healthier ways of relating to others. Overall, while narcissism may not be 'cured' in the traditional sense, counseling and treatment can help individuals with narcissistic traits learn to manage their behavior, improve their relationships, and lead more fulfilling lives.

Remember, you DESERVE to be treated with respect and kindness, and it's important to prioritize your own well-being when living with a narcissist.

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